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Sunday, 26 February 2012

Party Etiquette

My policy on party invites for munckins is to rsvp immediately, otherwise I simply forget. Unless we are out of the county or country the munckins go. Youngest munckin is of the age when everyone in the class is invited, so they are very full on events. So imagine my surprise when having accepted one invite I received another for a different party on the same day at the same time.

I did the decent thing and phoned the Mother who had sent the last invite to let her know about the clash. Well she wasn't impressed and was borderline Churchillian in her stance that her daughters party was not moving. It was a party off!

Alas others take the same view as me, on the rsvp front and so she was left with only two children going to her daughters party. One of those was a Daddy rsvping when he hadn't checked with the Mother, so they had to pull as well, as the Mother had already rsvped to the first party. Are you following?

For Middle England this is a social quandary and a half. Confused by the fact that a Mother organising the first party had an rsvp positively from the Mother on the second party??

With less than 48 hours to go to the party explosion, the Mother who sent out the late invites caved. She went for same day but am not pm slot. For unconnected reasons we couldn't make this. But all the while a little person was having a party and no one was going to show. So youngest munckin and I bought a gift and surprised them by taking it round, outside of party time. The priceless look from the Dad said it all, as he opened the door to see my youngest with a present,  he presumed we had come to the party on the wrong day. I was tempted to leave youngest saying I'd be back in two hours, but I thought the confused party humour may be lost on them at this stage.

The lesson here is whatever the age, make sure everyone knows when the party is and check against class mates birthdays to avoid a clash. Eldest has a party over two months away, we have already had to circulate the date as it is prime Spring party season.

Are children's parties this political elsewhere, or is this middle england in overdrive?

PS> Quick Susise update - she told the 21yr old Father. He was not best pleased and told her to not tell anyone it was his. Now she can't tell her best friend/ his Mother.... is this better or worse? She keeps the friendship but with a massive lie.

Wednesday, 22 February 2012

Quick update on Susie's plight...

She told him, he said he wanted nothing to do with her or the baby and that he never wanted anyone to know that he was the father.

Should she have kept quiet?

Friday, 17 February 2012

Unplanned, unprepared and unknown...

True story...

My friend, for the purpose of writing here, we'll call her Susie, is pregnant - 10 weeks pregnant. It's her first child and the next bit reads like the script of Eastenders.

Susie has a best friend, who is a little older, but age has never been an issue and they hang out a lot together, they even work together . Boxing Day, Susie spent with her best friend and her best friend's family. Way past respectable bed time, Susie finds herself drinking the vodka with her best friends 21year old son. Trying to match a first year university student, she fails. But the evening picks up and they have fantastic drunken sex.

Next morning doesn't feel quite so fantastic and Susie makes a sharp exit, not before telling the son, she doesn't want to ever discuss it again and she'd like to pretend it never happened. Life is never, that easy, is it.

So ten weeks later and typically this pregnancy is going fantastically well. So, Susie is trying to do the right thing and tell the son, only she doesn't know if she has his right mobile number and she's left a message asking him to call her. However, he's probably just starting his friday night out so won't call now. If the mobile doesn't work, Susie has to resort to contact via Facebook.

The best friend has no idea. She thinks her friend Susie has a water infection and that is why she's not been out recently.

 I have a feeling a small corner of middle england, isn't going to be the same by the end of this weekend.

Ridiculously busy husbands advice, was to tell everyone it was a sperm donation, thereby not ruining a friendship or a young mans life. But Susie doesn't want to live with a lie...

Any top tips for Susie, we have spent the last hour roll playing the call to the young man. My top tip was don't mention the word baby or father and refer to the the situation as you being a 'little bit pregnant'. Any other advice will be passed on...